Healing is not the same as fixing

In my last post I talked about healing as an everyday process. I'd like to clarify a little more now about how everyone could use healing, and that healing doesn't mean there's anything "wrong" with you.

Sometimes we might get the impression that healing is only for people who have something wrong with them: people who are sick or injured in some dramatic manner, or people who have suffered severe trauma.

You might think to yourself, 'I don't need healing because there's nothing wrong with me.'

And you are correct. There is nothing wrong with you. But that doesn't mean you couldn't use some healing.

In our society, trauma has come to signify suffering some dramatic event or form of abuse. Someone who is traumatized is often seen as broken and in need of fixing. However, just like the the word "healing", "trauma" is more mundane than people sometimes make it out to be.

Dictionary.com defines trauma as:


1. Pathology.

a. a body wound or shock produced by sudden physical injury, as from violence or accident.

b. the condition produced by this; traumatism.

2. Psychiatry.

a. an experience that produces psychological injury or pain.

b. the psychological injury so caused.

So basically, trauma is simply a physical or psychological injury. From this point of view, we all experience trauma on a regular basis. Certainly, there are people who have experienced very shocking and dramatic forms of trauma, but the size of the trauma does not dictate its impact.

We live in a society were it's common for people to tell you to "suck it up" or "get over it". This attitude does have its benefits, but it also has its drawbacks. 

Sucking it up and getting over our little traumas certainly can teach us how to be strong, independent, and resilient. However, we do not need to hold onto these traumas to retain the lessons. The trick is to let go AND retain the lessons learned. 

When we "suck it up" sometimes we can go through life never properly processing and releasing our "small" traumas. They then start to build up over time and can begin to weigh heavily upon us.

So no, there's nothing "wrong" with you - you "got over it" - but sometimes you can feel a residual heaviness, a density, that as it accumulates over time starts to hold you back. It feels like you're trying to run in water. Sometimes it's hard to breath, and you're not sure why. A million tiny traumas do add up.

This is where healing is beneficial for everyone. We all have accumulated "stuff" that we "got over" but never released. 

Try this exercise...

Think about a "trauma" you've experienced. It can be anything. It can be dramatic, or it can be mundane. Maybe someone made fun of you when you were a kid and said mean things to you, or maybe you had an overly critical parent, or maybe there was a break-up or something that you're mostly over, but there's still something there that hurts. Whatever has popped into your head right now just go with that.

Would you like the pain and discomfort you are feeling right now around whatever situation has come up to be released? If so, simply say "Yes" to yourself as you focus on your heart. Feel your heart rate and breathing settle. You're here and and you are safe. Listen and feel your heartbeat...

Now think about what lessons and virtues you have gained from this situation? What have you learned?  How did this experience make you into a better person? Take a few minutes to really reflect on this. If you need some help with this check out this list of virtues.

Take all you learned into your heart and feel gratitude from the strength, lessons and virtues you've learned because of this experience. Acknowledge that you now have all these lessons from this experience and you no longer need the pain to remind you.  

Imagine releasing this trauma into the light of all there is far above the universe, and feel unconditional love pour through every cell of your body.

Think back to the "trauma" you started this exercise with. How does it feel now? Does it feel smaller? Is it still bugging you? If it's still bugging you, try the exercise again and see what other lessons might be there for you.

I hope that this has given you some peace and comfort. Feel free to use this exercise to release other negative experiences. Let me know how it goes in the comments :)

Joanna xoxo

Are you a ThetaHealer?

Beliefs to test

  • Healing = fixing
  • Healing myself means there's something wrong with me
  • I'm obligated to carry past trauma from my own life/for other people
  • I have a million tiny traumas
  • I'm obligated to "suck it up"
  • I'm obligated to "get over it"

Releases & Downloads

  • Download the difference between healing and fixing from Creator's perspective.
  • Download Creator's highest perspective, understanding and definition of healing.
  • Release obligations to be traumatized and to carry trauma.

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